Real men are crossdreamers

 Felix Conrad is back. In a fascinating article he writes that "real men are crossdreamers".

Why? Because:

1. Crossdreamers Are Better Lovers

2. Crossdreamers Are Women’s Most Devoted Allies—And Not Out of Liberal Guilt

3. Crossdreamers Embody Strength, Sacrifice, and Resilience

Read: Three Reasons Why ‘Real Men’ Are Autogynephiliacs (this is the only ‘cure’ for AGP)

(Felix uses the term "autogynephilia", not because he supports Blanchard's theory - he does not - but because so many use the term to search of information on erotic crossdreaming).

Inside Mari, a serious body swap manga looking at gender variance

 

There is a specific trope in Japanese comics/manga about gender variance, namely the cross-gender body swap. There is even a sub-genre of erotic comics and movies looking at how such a scenario might play out. 

The comic book writer Shūzō Oshimi used this trope as a basis for a serious comic looking at gender variance and identity called Inside Mari. The story does not play out in the way the genre expects you to, but it is interesting all the same.

Terrie Nova presents Inside Mari over at Crossdreamers, discussing its pros and cons.

The Magic of Gender Transformation Fantasies

A Gender Fluid Life has a personal and interesting role of gender transformation fantasies over at YouTube.

Erotic crossdreaming refers to sexual fantasies where a person is transformed into another gender or is playing the role of another gender. 

There are cis people who have such fantasies, in the sense that they find the switch fascinating, but are nevertheless anchored in the gender they were assigned at birth.

Transgender people who have not transitioned may also have such fantasies. They are, like cis people, sexual beings, and transformation fantasies let them explore the possibility of being their real gender. Since they often find it hard to establish a satisfying sex life living and presenting as their assigned gender, the very idea of a gender transformation becomes eroticized. Why wouldn't it? Becoming your real gender makes a matching sex life possible.

(Some refer to this as "autogynephilia" or a fetish or a "paraphilia". The autogynephilia theory has been thoroughly debunked by science, and it its explanation does not reflect the real lives of trans people.  Forget about it!)

A Gender Fluid Life has published a series of four videos discussing the role of transformation fantasies among gender variant people, which you can find here.

New transgender news site: Transgender Report

Crossdreamers is experimenting with a new portal for transgender and nonbinary news based on the social media feeds of Jack Molay. 

The goal is to present selected headlines from various sources on a daily basis.

You can check out the new Transgender Report site here.

A spotlight on transgender and queer issues from the Crossdream Life forum

The Crossdream Life forum brings up a lot of interesting discussions of issues related to gender variance and crossdreaming. The Crossdreamer Sidebars blog (which has now gotten its own domain) presents some selected headlines from the last year or so.

A spotlight on transgender and queer issues from the Crossdream Life forum

Subconscious sex - what is it and how does it affect your gender identity?

A discussion of the concept of "subconscious sex", that which is partly or fully repressed by trans people denying or avoiding their own real identity, has led to some interesting observations over at Crossdream Life.

 This is how transgender scientist, philosopher and activists Julia Serano presents her term "subconscious sex":

"Subconscious Sex: a term I coined in Whipping Girl (pp. 26-29, 77-93) to describe an unconscious and inexplicable self-understanding regarding what sex one belongs to or should be. I felt the phrase was necessary to distinguish between these unconscious experiences and the more conscious way we make sense of such feelings (i.e., what we typically call gender identity)...

I purposefully used the word “subconscious” (which is ambiguous and rarely used in academic/research settings) to capture the vagueness of such feelings (at least as I experienced them) and to avoid making it sound like I believe that they resided in a specific gene or region of the brain. 

And I intentionally used the word “sex” (rather than “gender”) to reflect the fact that for many transsexuals (including myself) the desire to transition is often driven by sex embodiment (i.e., aligning our subconscious and physical sexes) more so, or in addition to, a sense of sex/gender affiliation (i.e., belonging to and being recognized as a member of that sex/gender). 

I also argued (in the cited passages) that cissexuals also likely have a subconscious sex, but they tend not to notice or appreciate it because it is concordant with their physical sex (and therefore they tend to conflate the two); this helps to explain the strong knee-jerk negative reactions some cis people exhibit toward transsexuals and the very notion of physical transition. See also intrinsic inclinations."

The term has helpful for a lot of gender variant trans people and crossdreamers, as it may be used to refer to what it is that is that they suppress or deny when they try to live up to the standards of a cisgender society  and present as the gender they have been assigned at birth.