Monday, July 21, 2025

Gender identity: Is it post orgasmic clarity (PNC) or post orgasmic depression?


 
In a recent article Felix Conrad  challenges the notion of post-orgasmic clarity (PNC) as a definitive insight into one's “true self,” especially in the context of gender identity. 

He explores how neurochemical shifts after orgasm—such as a dopamine crash and prolactin surge—trigger temporary emotional vulnerability, introspection, and even regret. These moments are sometimes mistaken for revelations, but the author argues they’re fleeting physiological events, not existential truths. 

Applying this to autogynephilia discourse, Conrad dismisses  the idea that  less intense crossgender feelings following climax discredits a possible transgender identity. Instead, it suggests that identity is shaped over time, not defined by transient states. 

Felix writes:

Advocates of the autogynephilia narrative often place undue emphasis on the refractory period, suggesting it unmasks a person’s “true self.” But this approach is flawed and reductionist. It mirrors the error of telling a depressed person their sadness is their true state, dismissing their joyful moments as illusions. Both perspectives fail to account for the complexity and fluidity of human emotions, desires, and identity. Post-orgasmic vulnerability reflects only a momentary shift in brain chemistry, not an ontological reality.

Read the article here! 

Wednesday, March 26, 2025

Real men are crossdreamers


 F
elix Conrad is back. In a fascinating article he writes that "real men are crossdreamers".

Why? Because:

1. Crossdreamers Are Better Lovers

2. Crossdreamers Are Women’s Most Devoted Allies—And Not Out of Liberal Guilt

3. Crossdreamers Embody Strength, Sacrifice, and Resilience

Read: Three Reasons Why ‘Real Men’ Are Autogynephiliacs (this is the only ‘cure’ for AGP)

(Felix uses the term "autogynephilia", not because he supports Blanchard's theory - he does not - but because so many use the term to search of information on erotic crossdreaming).

Saturday, January 18, 2025

Inside Mari, a serious body swap manga looking at gender variance

 


There is a specific trope in Japanese comics/manga about gender variance, namely the cross-gender body swap. There is even a sub-genre of erotic comics and movies looking at how such a scenario might play out. 

The comic book writer Shūzō Oshimi used this trope as a basis for a serious comic looking at gender variance and identity called Inside Mari. The story does not play out in the way the genre expects you to, but it is interesting all the same.

Terrie Nova presents Inside Mari over at Crossdreamers, discussing its pros and cons.

Monday, August 19, 2024

The Magic of Gender Transformation Fantasies

A Gender Fluid Life has a personal and interesting role of gender transformation fantasies over at YouTube.

Erotic crossdreaming refers to sexual fantasies where a person is transformed into another gender or is playing the role of another gender. 

There are cis people who have such fantasies, in the sense that they find the switch fascinating, but are nevertheless anchored in the gender they were assigned at birth.

Transgender people who have not transitioned may also have such fantasies. They are, like cis people, sexual beings, and transformation fantasies let them explore the possibility of being their real gender. Since they often find it hard to establish a satisfying sex life living and presenting as their assigned gender, the very idea of a gender transformation becomes eroticized. Why wouldn't it? Becoming your real gender makes a matching sex life possible.

(Some refer to this as "autogynephilia" or a fetish or a "paraphilia". The autogynephilia theory has been thoroughly debunked by science, and it its explanation does not reflect the real lives of trans people.  Forget about it!)

A Gender Fluid Life has published a series of four videos discussing the role of transformation fantasies among gender variant people, which you can find here.

Thursday, July 4, 2024

New transgender news site: Transgender Report


Crossdreamers is experimenting with a new portal for transgender and nonbinary news based on the social media feeds of Jack Molay. 

The goal is to present selected headlines from various sources on a daily basis.

You can check out the new Transgender Report site here.

Tuesday, June 25, 2024

A spotlight on transgender and queer issues from the Crossdream Life forum


The Crossdream Life forum brings up a lot of interesting discussions of issues related to gender variance and crossdreaming. The Crossdreamer Sidebars blog (which has now gotten its own domain) presents some selected headlines from the last year or so.

A spotlight on transgender and queer issues from the Crossdream Life forum

A safe place for discussing gender variance!

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